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Romance, Relationships & Human Design

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Looking for a Romantic Partner?  Understanding Your Human Design Can Help.

We are all looking to be loved.  If you are looking for a romantic partner or to put more love and romance into your existing relationship, your Human Design Chart can provide some insight.  Each of the energy types has needs and ways of being treated and communicated with that feel good.  If you understand what your type is and what your love “needs” are, you can look for these qualities in a partner or talk to you partner about it to enhance your relationship.

For example, my profile shows I like and need alone time.  I need a partner that understands that sometimes I need to go off and do my own thing.  It doesn’t mean that I don’t want to be with them or that I am upset with them.  It just means I need to recharge my batteries.

I like to work.  I love the work that I do so much that it doesn’t really feel like work.  I need to be busy and true to my energy type, I can’t picture myself ever retiring.  As we grow old together, it is important that my partner understand and accept that about me.  However, it is also important that I don’t become all work and no play so a good match for me is someone who can get me out of my head and help me have some fun.

Getting enough sleep is important to good health and a positive outlook.  Your energy type can help you understand how to get a good night’s sleep.  For me, I need to be tuckered out to sleep.  My partner goes to be early.  I cannot go to bed before I am tired or I will just lie there for hours unable to sleep.  But when I’ve expended all of my energy and I’m tired, I can go to bed and fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow.  This means we rarely go to bed at the same time.  He understands this need in me and accepts it rather than reading something in to it that is not true.

When I’m not myself it can be expressed as frustration.  When I’m frustrated I can get cross with what is frustrating me.  My partner needs to know that when I display frustration, he shouldn’t take it personally.  Usually, it has nothing to do with him.  I could be frustrated at myself, my computer or just about anything. We have talked about this and have agreed that when I am frustrated at him, I will be direct and let him know.  If I’m fussing or fuming about something else, he can just ignore me unless I ask for help.

There are many clues in the Human Design Chart around relationships.  It is even possible to create a composite of both people’s charts to see where compatibles and conundrums lie in the relationship.   

If you are interested in what your Human Design Chart can tell you about your relationship or what to look for in a new relationship, visit my website and book a targeted human design reading around relationships.  Book A Targeted Human Design Reading Here

Human Design – What Can Your Chart Tell You?

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There is a lot of buzz around Human Design.  So exactly what is it and what can it tell you?  Human Design is a system that supports you in cultivating a deep understanding of the most authentic, aligned and high performing expression of who you are.  It is a personality assessment tool of sorts which can give you insight into your energy, how you are wired to operate, and the special combination of gifts and talents you possess based on just your date, time and place of birth. 

How is that possible you might ask?  Human Design was “discovered” in 1987.  It is based on a number of ancient systems including astrology, the I Ching, The Kabbalah, The Chakras, and Quantum Physics.  Yes, Quantum Physics.  It is the science of self-awareness.  It was “given” to us to help mankind evolve and although one man named Ra Uru Hu was the receiver and translator of this system, it was “given” to all of us.

How Accurate Is Human Design?

How accurate is it?  Very.  As I read and share people’s Human Design Charts with them, they constantly validate how accurate the readings are.  Readings empower you to connect with your unique purpose, recognize your natural talents and live your life in a way that feels good to you for your utmost success, satisfaction and happiness.  The energy that makes you who you are is unique.  Like your physical DNA, Human Design shows us our energetic DNA.  It can help us in many areas of our life such as relationships, career, finding your life purpose, communication, managing your energy, vulnerabilities, making better choices, working through life’s challenges, and overcoming your fears and blocks.

We all came into the world with a purpose and a set of natural gifts to support us in living that purpose.  However, as we grow up, we are “conditioned” by well-meaning parents, teachings and the demands of society to think and act a certain way.  We conform because that is what we are taught we need to do to be accepted, to be loved, and to fit in.  We value conformity in our society.  We value certain personality traits and gifts more than others.  We don’t always value differences.  Some differences are frowned upon, even feared and can form the basis for hate.

Differences are the juicy parts of life.  If we were all the same, how boring would that be?  We might not have innovation and creativity.  Some inventions we enjoy as modern conveniences may have never been discovered.  What if we didn’t have people who thought and acted differently in the medical field and antibiotics were never discovered?  We need variety and different skills and talents in order to get the best possible result for all of us.  Two heads are better than one, right?  Well many heads are better than two.

Who Is Human Design For?

As a coach, I have used many personality assessment tools in my work over the years to help clients gain insight into themselves and an awareness of how they are special and unique so they can bring their best qualities forward.  Human Design is by far my favorite tool.  The information the chart provides and the accuracy of it is like nothing else I have used.

If you are struggling with or seeking understanding about an area in your life, I urge you to explore Human Design with a certified Human Design Specialist, as a way to find the insight you are looking for.  I have prepared an eBook that is a great introduction to Human Design called 3 Sacred Gifts You Can Learn From Your Human Design Chart.  You can download a complimentary copy from my website at https://NancyOKeefeCoaching.com  and take advantage of a free introductory reading to see what it is all about.

Nancy O’Keefe is a Certified Human Design Specialist, intuitive coach, and compassionate transformer, who helps women peel back the layers of who they have been taught to be to reveal who they truly are so they can live their inner truth, go after their deepest desires, and create a life filled with success, satisfaction and joy.

Nancy is a certified Executive Coach from the College of Executive Coaching, holds an MBA from Babson College in Entrepreneurship, an MS in Quality Systems Management from Anna Maria College.  She is a certified Career Transition Coach, Adviser of the Fascination Advantage®, Certified in Conversational Intelligence® and is Quantum Human Design Specialist.  Nancy has been developing and coaching people for over 25 years, helping them bring out their best qualities, build confidence, and feel empowered to go after what they want in life. 

What Is My Life Purpose?

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Life Purpose is a question we all ponder at different points in our lives.  Sometimes we question our life purpose because we are triggered by a milestone such as graduation or mid-life, by an event such as something that happens at work like a layoff or being passed over for an opportunity, or even by another person’s life that leaves us looking at our own life, our direction, and our accomplishments. 

Many of us struggle with our life purpose and wonder what we are supposed to be doing differently to achieve it.  We ask ourselves how other people seem to know their purpose and have a clear direction for a meaningful life and we feel unsure or stuck trying to figure out our purpose and direction.

We tend to over complicate the concept of life purpose.  Life Purpose isn’t as much about doing as it is about being.  Who did you come into the world to be?  How you choose to express that is the doing.  And we should always check in with ourselves to be sure what we are “doing” is in alignment with our true self as human “beings”.

Direction is an entirely different conversation.  You can be the full and wonderful creative expression of your “being” and your life purpose by going in any number of directions.

When we look at life purpose through the lens of Human Design, we find that our life purpose and our spiritual purpose are governed by our Human Design Energy Type.  There are 5 energy types:  Manifestor, Generator, Manifesting Generator, Projector, and Reflector.

The 5 Human Design Energy Types

Human Design Energy Types
Your Energy Type Can Reveal Your Life Purpose

The purpose a Manifestor serves is to get things started and to initiate others into action.  Spiritually they are here to translate divine inspiration into action.

The purpose of a Generator is to master work they love.  They are the workers of the world. Their spiritual purpose is to build the inspirations into form. This includes the Manifesting Generators although they are here to speed things up.

The Projectors are here to guide, direct and manage.  Spiritually, they are the anchor for what we are here to create.  They can see the potentials and blocks we have and can help guide the Manifestors and Generators as we create and build.

The Reflectors are here to be a mirror that reflects back to us how we are doing.  Spiritually, they are the evolutionary barometer. 

That is really the essence of purpose.  It is simple and useful but it doesn’t answer the question most of us are asking.  What we are really asking is not what is our life purpose but who did we came here to be.  We can understand this and get the answers we are looking for by going deeper into the Human Design Chart to reveal what I call Your Divine Life Story™.

Your Divine Life Story

Your Divine Life Story™ reveals who you came here to be, the natural gifts and talents you have to support you in that effort, and the challenges you are likely to face as you become that human being.  There is awareness and insight in this information and the keys to the question we pose around life purpose.  As we become more aware of our true selves, we begin to see that we have been taught to be someone that conforms to societal norms and ideas around what we can or should do that have caused us to forget or hide who we really are.  

This is why we struggle so much with “life purpose”, because the path we are on is someone else’s idea of how life should be and it is often not in alignment with who we came here to be.

Learning who you truly are, what natural gifts and talents you possess, and living in alignment with that can erase all the confusion around what we call life purpose.  Understanding who you are and living in the expression of that “being”, you will find that your purpose is often revealed easily. 

Find Your Life Purpose

So the question we should be asking isn’t “What is My Life Purpose”, but, rather, “Who Am I?”

If you would like to get the answer and learn Your Divine Life Story™, so you can find your life purpose, book a reading with me by pressing the button below.

Book Your Human Design Reading

Nancy OKeefe is a Certified Human Design Specialist, intuitive coach, and compassionate transformer, who helps women peel back the layers of who they have been taught to be to reveal who they truly are so they can live their inner truth, go after their deepest desires, and create a life filled with success, satisfaction and joy.  You can find Nancy at www.NancyOKeefeCoaching.com

Knowing Who You Are Is The Foundation For Success, Satisfaction & Joy.

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“A solid sense of self will help a person to lead a full and happy life.”  ~ Kimberly Elise

What would your life look like if you were engaged and loving your work, seen, heard, and respected in your field, making a difference, and earning the money you deserve?

How would it impact you personally to be energized by what you do, to feel the impact of the results you make possible, and to have your life flow easily in the direction you want it to go?

What would your relationships look like if everyone was honored for their contribution and understood so their needs and desires were met and communication was open and flowing?

This can be your reality simply by changing the way you look at your life to align with who you are and what you came here to do.  The secret is to define what you want in life and then build a life to support it.  Most of us do this backward. We pick a work lane and live with the life and lifestyle that goes along with it. This happens primarily because we don’t really know who we are or what our True Life Path™ is, who we came here to be and what we came here to do.

Who we are

As children, we know exactly who we are and what we like and don’t like.  Have you ever heard a 2 or 3-year-old say “No”?  They know exactly what they want.  But as we grow up, learn from our parents and well-meaning teachers, how to follow the rules, and adhere to social norms, we learn to comply because we long to fit in and be loved.  We are so busy conforming that we can lose touch with who we really are, our unique gifts and talents, our life purpose, and what we want.

As adults, we have to peel back the layers of social norms and teachings that have caused us to hide our true selves and put what we know is right for us away.  It’s time to re-discover yourself and live in alignment with who you are. Everyone is a unique creation, divinely designed with a purpose and a path.  A cookie-cutter society, family dynamic, or workplace, where we all follow the same path doesn’t work to create success, satisfaction, and joy for most of us.

Human Design Can Help You “Know” Yourself

I use Human Design and a number of other tools to help people get at the essence of who they are and what their true desires are. It is a wonderful way to gently begin to peel back the layers of societal conditioning and get back to that innate knowing of what is right for you. It also helps you make the right decisions for yourself around life, career, and relationships even where you decide to live because it teaches you the best way for you to make decisions based on your energetic type.

Human Design is a system that supports you in cultivating a deep understanding of the most authentic, aligned and high performing expression of who you are.  It empowers you to connect with your unique purpose, recognize your natural talents and live your life in the way that feels good to you for the utmost success, satisfaction and happiness.

I have witnessed people develop more trust and confidence in themselves, understand how they are designed to operate at their highest level, improve their relationships through a deeper understanding of themselves and others, give themselves permission to go in a new direction, shift their work-life to be in greater alignment with who they are and make better decisions for themselves.

Each of us has a unique energy footprint, like a fingerprint of who we came here to be. When we understand our energetic footprint, it reveals our life purpose and the gifts we naturally possess to support us in achieving it. Exploring You and Your Human Design is journey of re-discovery and joy.

Nancy OKeefe is a Certified Quantum Human Design Specialist, intuitive coach, and compassionate transformer, who helps women peel back the layers of who they have been taught to be to reveal who they truly are so they can live their inner truth, go after their deepest desires, and create a life filled with success, satisfaction, and joy.

Dragging and Dreading

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Do you feel like you are dragging yourself around and dreading what you have to do in your business?

What does it mean when you are dragging and dreading?  The number one reason I see for dragging and dreading is failure to live in alignment with who we truly are.  If you have spent a good part of your life forcing yourself to be someone you’re not and trying to do things you are not passionate about you may be dragging and dreading down the road to burnout.

There are other symptoms of constantly living out of alignment with who you truly are.  You might feel tired have a really low or no energy to do the things even the things you like to do.  You might feel like nothing is worth the effort.  It’s just too much bother to put up the holiday decorations, have family over, or do something special with your friends.  You just don’t have the energy and you can’t quite put your finger on why?   Maybe you’re wondering if you’re depressed.  But maybe you’re just burning out. 

Burnout can cause you to feel dissatisfied, unhappy and even be short with people for the smallest reason.  You can begin to feel resentful, constantly frustrated even angry, and it feels bad.  If you feel bad enough over time it begins to lower your self-esteem and you begin to worry and doubt yourself.  What’s wrong with me you might ask yourself?  You might judge others because you’re probably a little envious that they’re feeling better than you are.  You become negative and that draws other negative even toxic people to you because you’re just not in a good place.  One of the big symptoms is neglecting yourself, not practicing good self-care, not eating right, and not taking care of yourself.  You can develop some really bad habits that are hard to break such as eating and drinking too much.  Every bad habit adds to the stress and fuels the burnout until it leads to real heath issues.  It can be a lifelong downward spiral.

The funny part about living out of alignment is that intuitively you know that this isn’t you.  You know there’s something wrong but you can’t quite put your finger on it and don’t quite know what to do about it. 

So, if you are dragging and dreading or experiencing any of the other symptoms, what can you do about it?  The best way I know to get yourself out of this trap is to start by identifying where you are out of alignment and start to understand who you truly are.  We live in a world where we have been told who we should be, taught who we should be, and shown how we should be based on what other people define as success and happiness.   

We have developed a quiz to help you pinpoint where you are out of alignment and how you can get back on track for a life and business filled with success defined your way, satisfaction, passion, more energy, excitement, and joy. click on the link to take the quick quiz and immediately get your results.  Alignment v.s Burnout Quiz

The Danger of Conformity

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“Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.”   —John F. Kennedy

We, humans, tend to be like pack animals—safe in our herds. We don’t like to stand out too much; at a primal level, it feels unsafe.  So we conform to generally accepted standards of behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs within our herds, and we mostly expect others to as well. Sometimes it is good to play it safe, stay in the background but sometimes it causes us to go unnoticed when we want to be noticed or miss opportunities.

Most of the time, we don’t even realize we are conforming. We do what others do because others do it, not because we have consciously and thoughtfully chosen it. It’s just “what is done.” Or we conform because of pressure and expectations.

Is conformity all bad?  No, of course not.  It’s not a bad thing to stop at red traffic lights or drive on the correct side of the road.

So when does conformity become dangerous? Below is a look at four ways conformity could be detrimental to living a full and meaningful life—your life.

When conforming deletes your passions…  

Everyone in your family goes to college and becomes doctors or lawyers or other professionals. You want to go to cooking school and become a baker, but you go to college instead and get on the “right track,” majoring in finance.

When conforming negates your healthy instincts…

As a brand new mother, your instincts scream that your baby should sleep in bed with you, or at least in a crib right next to it. Yet night after night, you close the door to your baby’s room and endure 20 minutes of his crying because letting him “cry it out” is what you’re “supposed” to do.

When conforming squelches your truth…

You’ve known you were gay since childhood, but to acknowledge it would crush your family and your career. So you don’t. Your entire life feels like a lie.

When conforming harms others…

You’ve always gone along with your friends who like to harass ethnic minorities. Now they’re planning a hate crime.

Bullying, abusing, acting on dangerous ideologies and much more can bring harm to others, physically or psychologically.

What’s missing from the equation in dangerous conformity is critical, free-thinking. We so cling to our groups that we miss discovering what we, ourselves, truly think and truly want.

The good news is that our true selves never really go away. They lie in wait for the day they can be set free to live the passionate, authentic, inspired life for which they were created.

Author’s content used under license, © Claire Communications

 

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